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KN, p. 340 “Death by Holiday”

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An elderly family member passed away during last year’s holiday season and while searching through several funeral websites for information, I found out more than I expected. Nationwide stats and reasons for death are mixed in with casket choices and names of local florists.

Did you know that murder and violent crime can increase during the holidays? The underlying reasons listed below are a compilation from several different funeral home websites across the country, not limited to the South or Northeast where I have lived.

  • People tend to drink more at the holidays: Getting drunk can lead to dumb decisions, fights, and more deadly DUIs than at non-holiday times.

 

  • Tensions are higher: Not everyone is full of joy and laughter at the holidays. Reminders of disappointing or difficult previous holidays can trigger emotional reactions. In some cases, this can result in domestic violence against spouses or children.

 

  • Money troubles: It’s tough to enjoy the non-stop commercial display of excess on every corner when money is scarce during the holidays. Not being able to afford the glitz can give rise to an overwhelming feeling of failure. Theft and robbery of goods/money by desperate people can result in deadly force to protect those items.

 

  • Too much to do: Full-time jobs and party planning create conflict when the work falls to one person to do all the cooking, cleaning, decorating, and shopping before the events. Some people snap under the pressure and nothing good comes from that. Heart attacks, strokes, food binges, increased drinking – can all be elevated to an unhealthy level.

 

  • Too tired to do it all: There are only 24 hours in a day and just because we need more time to get all the prep done doesn’t mean we can change the clocks. BUT, being tired causes problems on the highway, at work, and on the holiday itself. Sleeplessness can lead to poor judgment and poor reaction time while driving, leading to lost tempers and more accidents. Research by insurance companies indicates that exhaustion on the road has the same result as being drunk.

Soooooo…. What can we do to prevent all that from happening to the people in our circles?

Drinking and driving don’t mix, so consider taking a taxi to your destination and home again. Or choose a designated driver in your group before the event, who will be willing to stay completely alcohol free during the event. YIKES stat: The weeks between turkey day and December 31st are when drinking is at an all-time high.

Avoiding stress is nearly impossible, so consider making a doable plan that paces the day and includes time in the gym or a massage or quiet time with a cup of tea and a book. WAIT-WHAT? Doesn’t that take time away from the tasks already on the list and even add to them? Sheila and I have each tried the quiet time scenario with no phones or TV on in the background. It’s amazing what 15 minutes away from ‘the list’ will do to increase focus and refresh the brain.

Money, money, money. We all need it but sometimes the money runs out before the month does. Even in a money-tight year, we tend to want the same celebrations as before, but that’s not realistic or practical. To keep from bouncing the credit cards at the holidays, use the old decorations, get a smaller tree, buy one or two presents for each other instead of five. Consider hand-made gifts, or gifts of chores around the house, or books, or performances for each other (Check out “The Twelve Days of Christmas”). Stay away from the high-priced hot-ticket items in the stores. Make a budget that realistically assesses what you can afford to spend and keep track of what you’re spending. When the money runs out, it’s gone, so spend thoughtfully.

To-Do List. There is not one single person I know who wants to do ALL the work while the spouse or children are on their phones or watching TV. The Resentment Meter can go off the charts and lead to work strikes in the kitchen and one or two murderous thoughts. The routine that Sheila and I have devised through the years is workable for anyone. We sit down a week or two before the event and make a list of everything that needs to be done, including the shopping, meal-planning, cooking, cleaning, special circumstances, decorations, gifts, setup, invitations, and transportation. We divide the responsibilities according to time needed and skill level required with a haggle here and there over the details. Flexibility is key. HINT: getting the kids involved in the list goes a long way to develop their sense of family participation.

Toooo Tired! Multiple gatherings can wear a person out and if adults don’t get at least six hours of sleep a night they put themselves at risk for heart attacks or strokes. Or car accidents. Or unfounded anger. If you’re exhausted, consider having a short nap. Less than half an hour in a dark, quiet room can refresh your brain and attitude.

 

Slow down and take a step back from the potential chaos. Above all, remember the Reason for the Season and enjoy it. The life you save may be your own.

 

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KN, p. 326 “Death by Opioids”

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From the American Society of Anesthesiologists:

“Opioids, sometimes called narcotics, are medications prescribed by doctors to treat persistent or severe pain. They are used by patients recovering from surgery, experiencing severe pain associated with cancer, hurt playing sports, or seriously injured in falls or auto accidents.”

(https://madeforthismoment.asahq.org/pain-management/opioid-treatment/what-are-opioids/)

Potential side effects
Mild side effects of opioids include sleepiness, constipation, and nausea.

More serious side effects associated with an overdose (even accidental) can be life-threatening and include shallow breathing, slowed heart rate, and/or loss of consciousness.

And then there is the possibility of addiction, for some people and with some drugs, in as quickly as five days. “Opioids can make your brain and body believe the drug is necessary for survival. As you tolerate the dose you’ve been prescribed, you may find that you need even more medication to relieve the pain.”

More than 2 million Americans misuse opioids, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, and every day more than 90 Americans die by opioid overdose.

The most common opioids are sold under several names:

  • Codeine
  • Fentanyl
  • Hydrocodone
  • Oxycodone
  • Oxymorphone
  • Morphine

If you think your pain meds are not on this list, here are some brand names also used, depending on your physician preference or insurance carrier:

  • OxyContin
  • Percocet
  • Palladone
  • Vicodin

Not to forget heroin…”it is an illegal and highly addictive form of opioid with no sanctioned medical use.”

If we are not among the legal or illegal drug users, why should we care?

While the numbers have dropped from a year ago, the stats posted by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, indicate just over 100,000 people died of a drug overdose during the 12-month period ending in April 2024. With numbers like that, it’s likely somebody you know has a family member affected by the deadly side of opioids.

https://nida.nih.gov/research-topics/trends-statistics/overdose-death-rates

Real Life Experiences
When we’re young and invincible, we generally don’t think about the toll that life exerts on our bodies. It never occurs to most of us that popping a tendon would ever happen to anyone not involved in professional tennis or football or rugby. Or that tripping and falling on macadam would result in a smashed kneecap. Or that a nasty car accident would change our lives forever. Thank goodness we don’t live life based on what accident might ensue in the next five minutes.

The point being…nobody wakes up planning to become addicted to pain-numbing drugs, but those normal activities might be the path to get you to the dark side of what is designed to help us get through recovery.

Friends of ours have suffered through multiple sports and accident related injuries and surgeries, and lived to tell the tale. But, two became heavily dependent on opioids while the complications post-op were dealt with. One became addicted and needed to go to a drug rehab center for a time. Counseling wasn’t enough. A supportive family wasn’t enough. Long after the injury healed, he had to deal with getting away from the dangerous drugs he had taken in good faith.

Why does this happen? A physical therapist mentioned that opioids can affect people quite differently. Just as no two patients recover from the same surgery in the same way, some patients never have withdrawal symptoms from them. Many  are extremely sensitive to being on any Class A narcotic for even the five days.

Once addicted, the likelihood of a successful outcome becomes an almost impossible task. Reputable doctors and pharmacists carefully monitor which drugs they prescribe and deliver, but for the desperate, other avenues are available. Take a look at celebrities with unlimited resources and lowlifes willing to supply them.

In other cases, unintentional deadly combinations can and do put people into an early grave. The brother of a close friend wound up in an institution at age 26 because of party drugs. He’s been there for 15 years and will be there for the rest of his life, the brain damage permanent.

Death by Opioids? Yup. 90 times a day, in the USA alone.

 

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KN, p. 321 “Death by Scorpion”

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It was 2 a.m. Awakened by the call of nature, I remembered I was in Texas and slipped on my shoes. Ya never know what is going to greet you in the middle of the night, but scorpions were not at the top of my list to be inside the house I had rented.

Surprise! A two-inch brown fella was lurking near a wall as I flipped on the bathroom light. He froze, then waved that pesky tail. I froze, then grabbed a can of Lysol and kept spraying at him from five feet away until he stopped moving. I knew that wouldn’t kill him, but it would slow him and give me time to drop a wet paper towel on top of him. I could then stomp the daylights out of him and dispose of the body.

Having lived in Texas for a dozen years a decade ago, I was familiar with the various poisonous critters that the State is known for, but I had only known scorpions to hang out near swimming pools. No swimming pools within ten miles, so where did it come from? Hmmm… too tired to deal with that question, I returned to bed, but left the light on behind me.

The next night, around the same time, I awoke as thirsty as a parched traveler in the high desert and headed to the kitchen faucet. I was not alone. A scorpion sat in the bottom of the sink and as I waved my hand above it, saluted me with his threatening appendage. I reached for the avocado oil conveniently nearby and sprayed until he stopped waving that tail. It took a minute… or three. This time when I dropped the paper towel on top of him, I heard a crunching sound as I pressed. Ewww. But, he was deader than dead. Whew!!!

Leaving the lights on at night kept the critters out of sight for the rest of my stay. The homeowner had sprayed outside before my arrival, but definitely needed to do more.

So, what’s the big deal? Most scorpion stings result in minor swelling and crazy burning itching, but a few cause more severe reactions. Back in 2021, scorpion stings caused over 3,200 deaths in the world. There are over 100 varieties of scorpions in the USA, with a surprising 1,750* varieties on the planet, and only twenty-five of those have deadly venom. Phoenix, Arizona, is recorded as having the highest incidence of scorpion stings in the USA in the past, but the area has worked hard to correct that in recent decades.

Featured in multiple movies (Gods of Egypt, Bordertown, etc.) and TV shows (Death in Paradise and more) as bugs that kill, scorpion stings are a public health problem in hot, humid countries like Africa, India, the Middle East, and especially Mexico where 1000 deaths from scorpion stings have happened some years. By comparison, only four people have died in the last decade in the USA after scorpion stings. However, lest you think you’re safe by living outside the range of the venomous scorpions, they wander elsewhere by crawling into luggage and shoes, and can travel home with you by plane, ship, car, or boat.

A scorpion has a flat body and their hiding places in people’s homes during the day include the many, many cracks near floors, windows, and doors close to water sources. Like any other living creature, they need water to survive, but hang out in those areas because their food source is there as well (insects, spiders, other scorpions, lizards, and even small mice.) They have four pairs of legs, a pair of claws, and a segmented tail with a venomous spike at the end. Scorpions vary in size from a half-inch to a whopping seven inches in length. I have been told by doctors who handle the victims of bites that the big, dark brown/black scorpions won’t kill you, but the stings will hurt like a ball of fire. Young children and older adults are likely to have more severe reactions to the stings of any size and variety and need to be treated ASAP.

In general, scorpions are not aggressive and only attack when bothered. A Texas friend tossed a shirt on the floor, left it there overnight, put the shirt on the next day, and was stung by a scorpion stuck in the folds of the shirt. She’s fine, but experienced the wild burning and itching for a couple of days. No other ill effects, except for having to dispose of the dead scorpion.

The best way to avoid the bites altogether is to shake out shoes and clothes before putting them on…or before packing those clothes into the suitcase. If you like to garden in an area where scorpions have been sighted, long sleeve-shirts and closed-toed shoes are a necessity.

Frequent cleaning and dusting, and being especially thorough with cracks and seat cushions, will help keep the buggers at bay. Screens on the windows and doors keep them outside where they belong, as will filling the cracks with plaster or expanding foam. Anti-scorpion spray can be used around the foundation on a regular basis, but weeding around the foundation and clearing trash away is also important.  

By the way, the smaller brown ones are not nice to people, so beware, and keep your shoes on. Death by scorpion can be a bit grisly, with paralysis, blurry vision, rapid tongue movement, thrashing, vomiting, irregular rapid heart beat, high fever, multiple organ failure, and closing airways to follow if not treated in time.*  When symptoms reach this level, antivenom may not be enough. Fun fact: scorpion antivenom can cost $40,000. for each vial.

Maybe the night light should be a bit brighter.

*Some information from the US National Institute of Health.

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