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KN, p. 266 “Haunted Cemeteries and Halloween Activities for 2025”

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Are you spooked by cemeteries? Or, do you walk through them to check out your own ancestral history?

Cemetery excursions often evoke fond memories of a favorite friend or relative. Some cemeteries are destination outings for those who wish to visit famous people buried within the hallowed grounds.

But sometimes, the visits are not about honoring the departed. Most European cathedrals have graveyards outside, but also house the remains of royalty beneath the slate and tile in the sanctuaries. Walking across the stones in certain corners of Canterbury Cathedral can stir a feeling of the presence of evil. The crowds that have worn away the stones over the centuries have not removed the sense of death and sorrow that seems to linger in the darkened alcoves.

We read about souls lost in between this earth and another dimension. We tell tales of being scared beyond rational thinking when stuck in a graveyard at night. Reports abound of an unnerving feeling, as if life-forces come out after dark to dance or moan soulfully of their own unfortunate, untimely demise. What if the dead haven’t yet crossed over to another plane and need to reach someone in this world in order to be able to rest in peace? It’s the stuff of novels and movies galore.

We have ghost hunters searching for restless spirits, cemetery researchers looking for the ancestors of a client, and the curious wondering what all the fuss is about. Whatever your belief system, it is possible to take cemetery walks all over the world, some for free, others at stiff prices for the privilege of being frightened in the name of fun.

 

New Orleans, Louisiana is the place to go for a variety of spooky tours – vampires and voodoo included. Check out the site for Phantom Tours, where you will find French Quarter  tours as well.

In the Fort Worth, Texas area? Fort Worth Ghost Tours takes small groups of ghost/spirit hunters through the area, stopping at famously haunted areas. Tourists/believers can see ghostly lights and (maybe) ghosts everywhere. Let us know what you see if you go. Pictures welcome. Indeed.

Cary, North Carolina is the site of historical Hillcrest Cemetery, one of Cary’s most haunted cemeteries. Click on the name to find details about this fascinating place.

Also in North Carolina, Charlotte (the Queen city), offers a chilling ‘haunted walking tour,‘ guaranteed to show off  ‘restless spirits.’ It promises to be family-friendly.

Remember Ichabod Crane and “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow”? Sleepy Hollow, New York is the home of Sleepy Hollow Cemetery , the definition of spooky. There are tours scheduled for day as well as night and must be booked ahead. A Lantern tour at night promises to deliver on the scare factor as stories are shared about some of the inhabitants.

Salem, Massachusetts is well known for the Salem witch trials. There are special events all October long, culminating with Halloween. Check out their Haunted Happenings website for activities and street closure information.                                                                                                                                                                    

Fascinated by caves? Combine that interest with a lantern carrying Spooky Cave Tours at The Grundy Caverns in Pelham, Tennessee.

 

 

Check your town’s website to see what events will be held locally. If illness has caused cancellations in your area, set the DVR for Halloween movies and wear your costumes anyway. Whatever you decide for your Halloween observance, stay safe and have fun.

 

Kelley reads to the neighbors

 

 

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KN, p.127 “Visiting Arlington National Cemetery”

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Arlington National Cemetery, the most famous of the USA’s military cemeteries, turned 160 years old on June 15, 2024. Special ceremonies were held from May through June to commemorate the 150th anniversary ten years before. “Honor the Tradition, Remember the Sacrifice, Explore the History,” written in the cemetery brochure, was/is a thoughtful reminder for all who walk through the hallowed grounds.

We had a chance to visit on a misty day in October, picked up a map from a helpful guide in the Welcome Center, and spent several hours in the peaceful 624 acre landscaped rolling hills. As we passed the thousands of headstones – over 400,000 active duty military service people and their families – we were struck with the size of the place. The stats on the website didn’t prepare me for the reality of the graves that stretched to the hilltops and beyond, or the hush that settled over everyone. There were no loud voices, no running children or barking dogs, even with the hundreds of fellow visitors all around us.

The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier was on our list to see.

 

 

 

This memorial contains the remains of unknown servicemen from WW1, WW2, and the Korean War. 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, the soldiers from the 3rd Infantry Regiment keep vigil. The changing of the honor guard is scheduled for every hour.

 

 

 

We hadn’t realized it, but members of the public can participate in wreath-laying ceremonies at the Tomb. We had the privilege of witnessing two groups. The website provides information about how to arrange to do this – anywhere from five weeks to six months ahead of time

Full Military Honors

The quiet was broken by the sound of guns in the distance. Our brochure told us that Arlington National Cemetery conducts between 27 and 30 funeral services Monday through Friday as well as several on Saturday. Our path took us closer to an apparent salute in progress.

All the visitors were safely behind ropes and fences while the guns were going off. And they were loud! My camera jumped (a LOT) the first couple of times I tried to get the photo of the guns in action. There was a long time between each boom and we found out that about 45 minutes before the service of higher-ranking officers, the cannons/guns/rifles will begin firing. This signals attendees that they should gather at the graveside while the casket is traveling through the cemetery.

Then once the service has been completed, the appropriate number of shots will be fired again, in quick succession.

Commissioned and warrant officers buried at Arlington receive standard military honors, and can also have an escort platoon and a military band. When we saw the horse drawn caisson carrying the flag-covered casket on the road above us, accompanied by a good-sized band, we figured the deceased had to have been pretty important. We kept track of the initial rounds and knew there had been fifteen.

Here are the rules for numbers of shots fired:

  • General/flag officers of the Army, Navy, Coast Guard and Marine Corps may receive a cannon salute (17 guns for a four-star general, 15 for a three-star, 13 for a two-star, 11 for a one-star), if available.
  • Minute Guns may be used for general officers/flag officers of the Navy, Coast Guard and Marine Corps.
  • The President of the United States is entitled to a 21-gun salute, while other high state officials receive 19 guns.

We were told later that the deceased had been a Vice-Admiral.

JFK

One of our stops during the visit was at the graves for President John F. Kennedy and his family. It seemed to be a popular memorial, with a eclectic mix of visitors. International tourists were curious and took selfie snapshots; Americans paid their respects to a President assassinated while in Office; a teenager got a history lesson while standing next to a senior citizen; a group of the Vice-Admiral mourners stopped and chatted quietly before moving on. Many had tears in their eyes and one older gal openly sobbed. It’s hard not to be affected once you round the corner and see the eternal flame.

There are dozens of monuments erected to honor the dead throughout the cemetery. There are only two Presidents interred at ANC. This is a list of ten representative memorials, with more information about each (from the ANC website).

·       3rd Infantry Division Monument

·       Argonne Cross (WW I)

·       Battle of the Bulge Memorial

·       Confederate Memorial

·       McClellan Gate

·       Pan Am Flight 103 Memorial Cairn

·       Pentagon Group Burial Marker

·       President William Howard Taft Monument

·       Robert F. Kennedy Gravesite

·       Spanish-American War Memorial

 

Arlington National Cemetery is operated and managed by the Department of the Army. ANC Explorer is a mobile app that can be used by visitors to locate gravesites and/or conduct self-guided tours. If you travel to our nation’s capital, Arlington National Cemetery should be on your must-see list, and the app will help explain some of our history not always covered in school.

Thank/help/employ a Veteran. Their sacrifices have helped to keep you free.

 

 

*Photos by Patti Phillips

 

 

 

 

 

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KN, p. 243 “Where Did They Move the Graves?”

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“May he/she rest in peace.” a statement made by attendees at most funerals in one form or another. We all want our loved ones to rest in eternity, free of any earthly concerns. We assume that for those being interred in a graveyard or other burial site, that the body will remain in that spot, marked in some way (by a headstone or plaque) to allow visitation by the heirs in years to come.

To many grieving loved ones, to disturb that resting place would be a desecration, no matter what the cause for doing so. But, however offended we may be at the idea of anyone digging up Grammie or Auntie Millie, States and municipalities have the right of Eminent Domain and that stretches to include moving graves if needed for the public good.

One comment made by some less sensitive, but motivated to complete the projects: “the dead are dead, so they won’t care.”

A common response made by the people affected: “the souls will haunt the diggers until finally able to rest.”

 

I read recently that sections of a central North Carolina church cemetery stand in the way of the highway department’s wish/need to remove a potential traffic bottleneck. I stood next to the road during ‘rush hour’ one day and there was never bumper to bumper congestion. Four years ago, somebody predicted that traffic would double by 2039, and as a result, this project was conceived. Hmmm. The plan is to widen the road from two to four lanes. Unfortunately, part of the church is about 30 feet from the road and the cemetery is not only smack dab next to the road, but is on both sides of the road. In 1831, when the church was erected on a peaceful country lane, nobody expected a major highway to be constructed a 1/4 mile away, let alone that the country lane would need to be widened to accommodate motor vehicles.

 

By NC State Law, relatives of the deceased in the ground must be notified of any intent to move the bodies. On occasion this happens because of cemetery re-design (unforeseen flooding, earthquakes, mudslides). In the case of natural disasters, relatives would most likely be okay with digging up coffins and having them moved to safer places. In rare instances, a body can be exhumed by court order when there is a suspicious death under investigation. And, permission isn’t needed from the immediate family in most jurisdictions when criminal mischief is the reason for the exhumation.

 

In NC, the plan is to relocate 206 of the 2000+ bodies to an area behind the church. Why some, not all? The State doesn’t need all the land. What if the church officials can’t reach everyone? The next of kin has had two years to reply, but what if the last known address doesn’t work anymore? What if all the heirs have died as well? The church will leave a marker near where the body had been (in some cases for 100 years) letting interested parties know where they can now find the grave and headstone. Yes, the headstones are to be moved as well.

 

I can tell you that people are upset, while some accept the reality. They’ve had almost two years since notification to adjust to the news and react. Stakes are in the ground reminding the congregation and heirs that the State is serious. Lawyers have been involved, negotiations to make adjustments to the plan have been underway, petitions to stop the project altogether have been filed. Blue flags indicate the dividing line between moving and staying put, although if the church followed the line exactly, in one case a family would be split up and the family headstone would be sliced in half. So, sane heads prevail and decisions are made to do the least harm.

Who takes care of the cost of moving the headstone and any damage that may occur? In this case, a contractor is being paid to move the headstones, but only pays for damage or repair if it’s specifically in the contract for hire. The NC church has become a go-between of sorts and has a few guidelines in place to ensure the quality and appropriateness of the stones.

 

Where does the law stand on this?

It varies from State to State, but in general, all living heirs of the dead must be found and notified of the plans to move the graves at the State’s expense (within the State’s definition). If one of them objects, the move cannot happen legally. But trust me, noncompliance can be expensive.

 

True story: decades ago, a proposed major highway spur was due to be completed in New Jersey. It had been on the books for so long that the locals assumed it would never be finished. When the time actually arrived, the homeowners were given a choice to move or stay and be cut off from city services because of the road design. The State finished the project and the locals that stayed lost any possibility of compensation, etc. and did indeed lose access to services, including for a short time having to drive two miles out of the way to exit the housing area. In other words, sometimes permission must be given, but that doesn’t mean the State will make it easy not to comply. If permission isn’t needed for road construction, the contractors will come in and bulldoze anything in the way. Legally.

 

Is this the first time a graveyard or personal or supposedly protected public property has been impacted by the needs of the many? Not by a longshot.

Golf courses have been built on top of graves, although sometimes accidentally. Read “Cemetery at the Golf Course,” here.

Eminent Domain covers the destruction and/or reduction of the federal park system.

Eminent Domain comes into play when ancient burial grounds stand in the way of energy development.

 

Is it legal to be buried on your own property?

What would keep me from bringing Auntie Millie home to my 5 acre piece of property?

There are no laws that prohibit home burial, but you must check local zoning laws before establishing a home cemetery or burying on private land. It is also legally required to use a Funeral Director, even if you are burying on private land. Embalming is only required if a person died of a contagious disease.

Whether in the name of greed or progress, the Eminent Domain stories just write themselves. And plenty have been, both in books and in the movies.

 

*Notes: There is nothing fictional about this post.
Photos taken by me, Patti Phillips.

 

 

 

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